We All Cope Differently


When I woke up yesterday morning and began the heartbreaking scroll through social media, I was stunned to see people still uploading outfit of the days and doing blogger mail unboxings.

My first thought was ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?

And I won’t lie to you, there was a lot of rage zooming about my bloodstream.

Punctuating the sadness, sorrow, fear and disbelief flowing across Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, were people seemingly going about their Tuesdays as if it were any other Tuesday that had gone before.

People who were either seemingly unaware of the horrors and devastation attempting to bring down one of our greatest cities, or people who just didn’t seem to care.

And I felt hurt. I felt hurt because I felt that we, as a country, needed to come together. We needed to take time out to mourn, to grieve and to show respect, strength and to support to the people who needed us most. We needed to put down our personal agendas and show solidarity in the face of what can only be described as complete and utter brutal madness.

And my way of doing that is to step back from the trivial. To step back from promoting myself in order to leave more virtual space to share valuable information about those missing. To retweet where it’s helpful, and to think of ways, however small, that I can personally help. To put my professional job somewhere in the background.

I won’t also try and pretend that on a personal level I wasn’t completely and utterly overwhelmed by Monday night’s events, because I was.

I spent most of yesterday on the sofa with BBC News on, feeling numb and distraught by the idea that such a beautiful planet can hold such terrifying evil.

But the point is, that’s how I dealt with tragic circumstances.

And it’s not fair to assume the same of everyone.

It’s not fair because we all handle situations in life very differently – whether that’s going through a break up, losing a loved one, or watching mass tragedies unravel from the sidelines.

We don’t know how we will cope in any situation until we are forced to, and there is no right or wrong way to process your thoughts or handle your emotions.

Because that’s the joy of being a human being – our uniqueness.

And so to think negatively of other people for coping in their own way, well that’s letting the people who want to destroy us, win.

It’s turning on one another, it’s hating on one another, and it is the very opposite of what we, as a society, need to do at this very minute.

We need to embrace each other, to love each other, to support each other and to show respect for one another.

We need to be willing to see the world through more than just our own eyes.

We need each other more than ever right now. We need to unite and show strength, compassion and above all – kindness.

We need to be the best neighbours, friends and strangers that we can be to one another.

And so whatever you are doing today, whether that’s taking some time out to reflect and hold your loved ones closer, or taking the world by storm like a sassy go-getter, remember that it’s really, really very much OK to do your own thing.

And, as a very wise man once said: ‘Happiness can be found in even the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light’.

Sending love and prayers to the 22 beautiful souls who lost their lives in Manchester this week <3 You can donate to the Red Cross Emergency fund here.

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