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Your Guide To Dealing With A Really Hideous Mood

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Naturally, this post isn’t going to help everyone. We all have different things that make us feel better, give us strength and help lift us out of the dark little corners of our brains. But I wanted to put together a guide, a Hannah Gale guide, for making your day a good day, even when your brain has other plans.

Everything can feel so plain sailing, so easy, so normal, and then bam hi I’m a wave of period hormones – or even worse, hi bam I’m a low mood with no explanation. Am I depression? I dunno, you hun, will have to wait around to find out.

This isn’t a checklist for a bad mood – for days when someone’s utterly p’d you off or your bank balance is sobbing, it’s for days when you feel low. For days when the only option seems like lying on the sofa and staring at the wall until your cats find you and start eating your corpse.

Lol. But not lol because those moods feel like you’re trapped inside your own body and they are the worst. They feel inescapable.

Anyway, here’s what helps me…

 

1. COFFEE

I don’t know if it’s a psychological thing rather than the big, juicy shot of caffeine, but there’s something about a big mug of coffee that instantly makes me feel like a sassy girl boss.

Often just actually getting up, moving from your chosen hibernation spot, is the biggest hurdle when one of these moods strike. Don’t put a big ol’ wad of pressure on yourself to get up and do anything ground-breaking. Just make yourself a coffee and come straight back.

Goal one: Succeeded.

 

2. SHOWER

I don’t know why a shower is different to a bath here, but it is. A bath almost feels like an excuse to lie and continue floating about in your own thoughts, whereas a shower feels like an activity with a purpose. And you need purpose, something that makes you focus on the task at hand, rather than your head.

Shower, shave your legs, use too much shower gel because what’s life if you can’t treat yo’ self. Moisturise. Wash your face. Brush your teeth. Floss. Make yourself feel pampered, fresh, clean – quite literally the sparkliest version of you. Even if inside you feel the opposite.

 

3. UPBEAT MUSIC

As much as you’d love to just get back into bed and cry into every song Adele’s ever written, it *might* not be your smartest move. Blast the house, or your room, with feel-good, upbeat music.

When I’m struggling to work or feel like a big ol’ sofa lump, I put on KISS or KISSTORY in the background and it instantly gives me an injection of get up and go and makes me feel like maybe, maybe, I can do this. Let’s be honest, when are Justin Bieber, Pitbull and Little Mix ever going to make your mood worse??

 

4. FIND YOUR GO-TO OUTFIT

Clothes wise you want something comfy, but something that doesn’t make you feel like an ogre. It’s OK to go for trackie bottoms if they’re your favourite trackie bottoms. Life’s too short to wear the too-small ones with the chocolate stains that just don’t fill you with joy.

I won’t lie, I have an ancient pair of Nike running leggings with a hole in the leg that I swear by. There’s something about wearing gym wear about the house that instantly makes me feel like a bit more of a go-getter.

Don’t try and be sassy and put together a new fun outfit for Instagram. Heck, don’t even look in a full-length mirror if you can help it – when your mood is in the place it’s at, it can be extra analytical and critical and you will tear yourself apart even if you look like a 12950354753 out of 10. Don’t give your mind the chance.

Another one of my fave just throw on and go pieces is this Mango dress which you’ve all seen 73467 times before. It’s light, it’s flattering, it doesn’t give me a nip slip and most importantly – I can sit cross-legged with ease.

 

5. HAIR AND MAKE UP

I’m not saying get dressed up like you’re about to slam your way through five Wetherspoon’s pitchers, but make yourself feel like you.

I feel like a fraud if I haven’t sprayed half a can of dry shampoo into my roots and put a few random curls in my hair. OH and done my eyebrows. Stick to your every day basics, don’t try and master the natural daytime smokey eye, your brain is not ready for that one, boo.

And if you’re like I CAN’T DO THIS, THIS IS TOO MUCH, change the music over, make yourself another drink – maybe a tea, maybe a cold can of Diet Coke if you have a HG-sized obsession. Focus on the task at hand.

 

6. BASIC TIDY UP

If the house feels too meh, I can’t concentrate. I can’t even look at my laptop or be a productive princess when there’s things just lying about not in their proper place. A full house clean can feel like such a mountain when your mind’s not there, but do the basics – the washing up, making your bed, OH or even doing that thing where you put all your mess into one pile when you really cannot deal with putting it away.

Not only will you feel calmer inside because AH less mess, but you’ll get a little burst of I AM NAILING TODAY AND LOOK HOW FAR I’VE COME IN THE LAST HOUR too. Buzzin’.

 

7. FOOD

I mean, you might have needed food earlier on, but for me a low mood means this anxious butterfly sensation in my belly that is all like nuh uh hunny, you don’t want to eat.

Here’s where you need something middle-ground. Something quick and easy and yet comforting. Something that will give you energy but not leave you feeling like a sloth-hippo hybrid. I propose scrambled eggs. I’ve got something to admit here: I quite like them with peas and chilli and parmesan and I’m not even slightly sorry.

 

8. GET OUT THE HOUSE

I guess what you do out of the house depends on how you’re feeling at this point. If you’re still feeling like a 0 out of 10 on the mood scale, just take yourself for a 15 minute walk and come home. Get the fresh air, get your body moving, but don’t put pressure on yourself when you’re not there yet.

You could also meet a pal for coffee and cake, because let’s face it, other people can be a great distraction from your own mind, or if you can afford it, maybe a little manicure of pedicure because there’s minimal effort required but hey look you’re not on the sofa anymore.

 

9. SET A SMALL GOAL

Maybe you have something you’ve been meaning to send at the Post Office for a week, maybe you need to reply to a handful of emails, maybe you need to put all your DVDs back in their boxes, or maybe you want to do something bigger – write a blog post, do a gym class, clean the bathroom.

Do one thing that makes you feel like the day has had purpose and been a success.

 

10. THE REST IS UP TO YOU

I can’t tell you how to feel, or how much of your life to conquer in one day, it’s up to you to accept when things are too much and to give yourself time to recover and heal.

If you feel like a champion and feel like you could tackle another task or goal then GO GO GO, but there’s no shame in saying, jolly good show, I’m off to chill on the sofa.

Light a candle, get your fave blanket, make a hot drink and find something sexy on Netflix. Downtime is just as important and getting things done and only YOU know your limits and how much you can handle. You got this, girl.

 

I hope this helps just one person. Let me know what else you’d add into this checklist to help maneuver yourself from a low mood to an OK mood.

Oh and P.S. the cute NYC skyline mug is from H&M.

 



26 comments so far.
  • Laura

    Really liked this Hannah!

  • This is such a true, helpful post… thank you so much for posting something like this. For me, if I wake up feeling crappy the best thing for me to do is whip out my go-to red dress and call up one of my friends to go out for coffee/tea and chats. Often after that we’ll go over to hers and change into PJ’s and watch disney, because let’s be honest- Disney can remedy any crappy feelings.

  • Joanne Reynolds

    Hi Hannah. Thank you soooooo much for this. This is just my mood today and I’m at work in an office, so a lil bit restricted in what I can do 😞 I completely agree about coffee. Even on a hot day, I have so much more mojo after my 1st coffee xxx

    One thing I like to do is just make lists. Lists of things to cheer me up, or lists of things to be grateful for I find this helps centre my brain a little bit 😌

  • Maria

    Small typo:

    Downtime is just as important and getting things done and only YOU know your limits and how much you can handle. You got this, girl.

    You’ve said before you like us to tell you!

    Liked this post :) we always feel so bad having “lazy days” but they are important!

  • Going for a walk is mine (actually that’s a lie, food is mine, but it never actually makes me feel better) but sometimes you just feel so rubbish you want to hide away and stew in your own misery.

    I try to push all negative thoughts out of my head and get outside for a long walk. I always feel better afterwards.

  • Amy

    I had one of those days on Sunday and I laid in bed until 12 and didn’t want to do anything. Seems silly but my boyfriend suggested we go to B&Q and get a coffee on the way back and I suddenly felt like I had a purpose to my day so I got up, showered and did my hair and make up and just felt immediately so much better. Getting out of the house even if just for a walk is the thing that works best for me!
    Amy xx
    http://www.callmeamy.co.uk

  • Such a lovely post! I can definitely recognize the mood your talking about and it’s so nice that someone has managed to successfully put it into words. I found myself nodding along to all of these points, but especially the tidy up bit. You wouldn’t think it had such a massive impact but it really does – I feel like when the house is clearer my mind is a lot clearer as well.

    I’ll definitely come back to this list when I next feel like this :) x

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

  • Hannah, your post are amazing! You just get people! It’s like you’re in my head sometimes with the things you say! Keep doing what you’re doing! Some really great tips here too :) Sophie x

    sophiehmstewart.com

  • 100% agree with tidying up! You have no idea how much the smallest mess throws you off balance until you tidy it up. I always find ticking something off my to do list helpful too.

    Georgina Clarke x

  • I felt so like this today, yesterday i got too hot and wound up and cross that everyone around me now has a HUGE summer holiday to look forward to and I’ve got nowhere abroad to go. I tried on about 5 different outfits, because looking smart for a client meeting AND being cool enough to not reveal any underboob sweat (the struggle was real yesterday) is actually bloody hard and most of my summer clothes are only acceptable supping cocktails on a beach somewhere, not in a respectable clients office during a presentation. Still, coffee, tonnes of water and a cheeky toblerone triangle after lunch have sorted me out! Alice xxx

    http://www.woodenwindowsills.co.uk

  • Rebecca Hughes

    I am in the worst mood today and this post really helped!

    I just listened to KISS FM and I feel instantly better.

    I am also going to give myself a trip to the shops and do some cleaning later…. productivity is key!

    • Make sure you buy yourself a Twix and schedule yourself a cup of tea and chocolate break after your cleaning :) that’s the best kind of motivation!

  • totally agree with the tidy thing! I feel like my life is a mess if my flat is a mess!!!

    I find exercise my biggest motivator BUT I struggle with the motivation to get there in the first place lol

    xx

  • I was totally having one of these days, so eagerly started reading this post, saw coffee was item no 1, and decided to go make myself an amazing iced coffee slushy thing in my nutribullet, because I had some coldbrew in the fridge. Thought I would feel like I was winning at life suddenly. Instead, the effing nutribullet did not screw shut properly (okay, my fault obvs) and coffee sprayed everywhere, I got myself several electric shocks trying to turn it off before unplugging the damn thing and now I have coffee everywhere but in my glass, and a nutribullet which may or may not be dead. Came back and read the rest of the post. It helped. Let’s face it, things couldn’t get much worse! 😀 x

  • Lave it! I’m not in a crappy mood per say, but after the stunning weather yesterday where I sat in the park in a maxi dress until 9.30pm reading on a park bench, today has turned into the mother of all storms. Basically my evening plan is to order radiator pjs for me to slink into when I get home, consume a treaty Burger King with the boyfriend and drink tea and eat the magnum I stashed in his freezer and watch a big action movie or something terrible that I love and just be COSY. I think being cosy when it is miserable outside actually has to be the biggest mood enhancer ever. You can’t get me anymore rain, I have PJs with doughnuts on them on! 😀

    http://victoriaspongepeasepudding.com

  • Sophie

    Absolutely agree with food being on this list, whenever I’m having an anxious day or feeling really down I pop down to Tesco in my car and indulge in whatever the hell I fancy, usually a huge bowl of Pasta with melted cheese! I also find that driving takes away some of my stress, I love that when I’m behind the wheel my whole focus is on the road and not whatever else is going on in my head, long drives are the best sometimes!
    Sophie x

    http://www.sophieblxck.com

  • Claire R

    I’m havin one of those days today and this post was lovely to read :) all these tips are so true!
    Something I find helpful is to write all my negative thoughts on a piece of paper. Be really honest about what’s making me feel down and what nasty thoughts about myself are in my head. I then scrunch it up and put it in the bin telling myself that the thoughts aren’t the truth. They aren’t real

    Xx

  • Yes yes yes I can completely relate to the feeling and also the things to do – getting out the house helps, and showering, putting on some lippy on just changes your mood. Sometimes I just have to accept it and watch youtube and just chill with music, my productive side hates it but I feel better :)

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Beauty Wellbeing

  • Thanks for this Hannah . Don’t want to be disloyal to my wonderful wife but her moods have been really bad for a week or so every month for the last year.
    I feel so bad for her because nothing I do can lift them.
    She might not have tried some of the suggestions here so will try to get her to have a read.
    Hope it’s not too weird a bloke commenting!
    Best wishes
    Matt
    Bes

  • Although we are talking about dealing with the doom and gloom of feeling rubbish here I did enjoy reading this post and how to conquer it in multiple ways.

    Thanks Hannah😃

    Tasmin ox

  • I’d switch out the coffee for a tea but other than that all of these things I completely agree with!

  • Please excuse my French, but this list is fucking brilliant. I just read your hormones post, and now I’m reading this one, and they couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Hormones? Yep. Depression? I gots it. It’s so refreshing and inspiring to read such frank and also empathic advice. I’m gonna print this out and tape it above my desk.

  • I love this check-list, many of us have these “low” days and its great to have some ideas to get out of the funk. Pampering and tidying is especially important I think. Also reading is a great way to escape from your own thoughts for a bit without vegging out in front of Netflix until the end of time.

    Its easy to be too hard on yourself too, but we all have productive and unproductive days, just do your best is my motto!

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  • Sarah

    I wonder if you might include something like reflection, introspection, meditation or mindful contemplation – so as to engage with this mood as well as ‘treating’ it with cosmetics, food, clothes and other products.
    And I wonder if you might add getting into the countryside (or just to a wood, a park or garden). Feeling the breeze on your skin, hands on the soil, toes in the grass, hearing the birdsong, re-engaging with nature, which can accommodate all moods.
    I’ve found that both of these have really helped me accept and soften moods rather than fighting them.

  • Fi rst of all you’re hilarious and I adore how you write. Second, this post is bang on! I woke up feeling a bit tetchy, and a few things I had planned weren’t going to be able to happen so it put me in an awful mood! I did a couple of the above, and a few extras that work for me, one of which is exercise. Not for everyone, but venting my frustrations out on a run always seems to help!

  • Definitely been having one of these days today so this post is perfect.
    I don’t know if it counts as ‘accomplishing something’ but i totally managed to get out of bed, make breakfast and catch some more Pokemon so at least it’s something! xo

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