Women cannot have it all.
Now, before you shout me down for being anti-feminist and ungrateful for everything women have petitioned for, for the last century, just hear me out.
I am tired. Really bloody tired. Exhausted. Shattered. Despo for a 24 hour sleep.
I’ve spent the last two decades in education, and now I live alone in London, spending nine hours at work a day, another two hours of the day on the transport system, and then I spend my evenings cleaning, blogging or attempting to have a social life. I spend my weekends blogging, attempting to have a social life and seeing my boyfriend.
I don’t go to the gym, I don’t have children, and I don’t see my family. I rotate which friends I see on a weekly basis.
Now tell me where I’m supposed to squeeze in a husband and kids and running a household into all this?
Because I can’t for the life of me see even a spare hour in my day to de-flea my cat, let alone bathe and feed a small infant or make packed lunches or iron shirts.
We’ve been brought up in the ‘having it all’ bubble. But the truth is, if we really do want it all, we’re going to get about 3 hours sleep a night and we’ll drive ourselves into a very early grave.
We have to make sacrifices, we have to pick which things are the priority and choose what to leave behind.
There is only so many balls of life we can juggle, and i’m already dropping half of mine on the floor and making a bit of a mess, and that’s with only half of the things i’m supposed to be balancing.
I have friends I haven’t seen in months, a very dusty gym membership, an even dustier flat, and a body that is begging me to slow the fuck down and just let it watch a One Tree Hill boxset and drink tea and eat so much Galaxy Cookie Crisp that I get a belly that hangs over my tracksuit bottoms.
So yes, it’s bloody amazing that we woman can do anything and everything. But do you really want to have everything?
Wouldn’t it just be better to pick a few key life objectives and manage them with a smile on your face and a healthy, happy mind and body?
Right now my job may be my main focus, but I know in a few years it might be forgotten about alongside my manicures and day-before outfit-planning because I want a family.
I may have the brain and the education to go far in my career, but that doesn’t mean that I have to or that I want to. Why are we so obsessed with putting down women for wanting to get married and make babies over wanting to head up a company? It’s the way we’re biologically set, and I for one would rather have the former 4783154 times over.
I don’t want to have it all, and i’m over trying too. Life is for living and not for trying to have everything you possibly can.
I’m grateful for how women in the UK have things in the 21st century, I’m grateful for the options and the equality, but society can go away and stop telling me I can have it all. I don’t want ‘all’.